5 Happy Marriage Secrets Every Woman Needs to Know

Perfect marriages do not exist.. They are urban legends that do not exist. However, there are many happy marriages out there. These are the marriages that are most successful. But most of these happy marriages have a few things in common. These are five secrets to success that most happy marriage share and that every women needs to know.

1) It’s OK to let your hair down once in a while. In fact, it’s encouraged. When you dated, you probably had a lot of fun together. There wasn’t this need to be ‘responsible’ and ‘in control’ of the situation all the time. There doesn’t need to be now. Sit back, relax, and have fun with the man you love. Remind him of all the reasons he fell in love with you in the first place.

2) When you feel like you look sexy, he finds you irresistible. Sexy is a state of mind. It isn’t a number on the scales or a face in the mirror. If you’re starting to notice the signs of age or having a hard time losing the baby weight then it’s time to adjust your attitude and bring ‘sexy back’ to your marriage. You’ll both be happier as a result.

3) Make TIME for your marriage and for each other. Most of us make time for things in life that are important to us but neglect setting aside time to work on the one thing that is MOST important to us – our marriages. It’s TIME to change that trend and start prioritizing your marriage. Set aside time each week to do something with just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be an expensive date night but it needs to be something that is reserved for the two of you without kids tagging along – work on a babysitting exchange if money is tight so you can have time alone together.

4) Nagging doesn’t work. Find another way to get him to do what you want. More often than not, the best way to go is a quid pro quo situation where he feels as if he’s getting as good as he’s giving in the process. If you want something done on a certain time table, throw a little sweetener into the offer for ‘fast service’. He’ll enjoy the challenge and it will be more effective (not to mention productive) for both of you.

5) Love alone is not enough to make any marriage work. Your man needs something more from you. He needs to feel respected and admired by you. He also values loyalty above all else. Never let him catch you saying negative things about him when you think he’s not around. It will feel like a betrayal to him, first and foremost, but on a deeper level it will be a sign of abject and total lack of respect and admiration on your part.

These are five simple things you can do that will keep your marriage strong and happy for years to come. They don’t cost a lot and the benefits are far reaching.

If you’ve already lost out on love and are facing divorce or have just gone through an unwanted divorce it isn’t too late to save your marriage. You just need a little guidance on how to get your ex back so you can start practicing these principles that are sure to make you both much happier with the state of your marriage.
Nancy Niedzielski’s VT speech for Death with Dignity with captions